Often we do what we do in hopes of being accepted into the circle, approved of and validated.
You know what our work craves though???
Acceptance from us.
Our job is not to convince others that our work is worthy.
Our job is to accept, whole-heartedly, our own work.
To love it from its infancy to its adulthood and all steps between—that’s our job.
To clap for it, cheer it on and delight in it (you know—that reaction we are hoping to get from everyone else but for some reason we aren’t giving to ourselves.)
Acceptance isn’t nearly as important for others to give our work as it is for us to give to our work.
It’s a beautiful word and one that can cause us to breathe a big sigh of relief.
It’s so curious that the very thing we so often want from others is the very thing we will not give to ourselves.
What is it that we fear will happen if we accept our work as beautiful, meaningful and wondrous—just as it is now, in this moment?
To let go of withholding gratitude and joy for our work because it doesn’t, according to us, “pass muster”—what would that taste like?
Not approving your own work is like disapproving of the six year old who has lost their front teeth—“I’ll accept you when you get your new teeth and when you’ve grown into them.” There is beauty and JOY in every step of the journey. How many smiles of laughter and love does a jack-o-lantern smile of the six year old produce? Are they less worthy of acceptance?
Every single one of us AND our day to day work and creative gifts, are “works in progress”, more than worthy of acceptance in every step we take.
As Byron Katie so aptly puts it, “It’s not your job to like me [or my work], it’s mine.”
I expanded on this subject a little further via audio. (Note: I do some of my best thinking in the car so please excuse the road noise 😉
To listen, either click the arrow above or the red arrow below 🙂