THE GREAT GRATITUDE ADVENTURE/DAY TWELVE/ THE REASON YOU CAN’T SAY NO
The Reason You Can’t Say N0 (Is ‘Cause You Never Said Yes)
It’s a common theme in life. The seeming inability to say no. No to all the extras. No to the things that others simply don’t have time to do that end up on your plate. No to the multitude of things that consume our days, our minutes, our lives.
I am no different.
I used to refer to myself as “caulking” .
Caulking to you non-handyman people is a substance that is soft and pliable—perfect for filling in all the cracks in a house to make it air tight and watertight, but not a glamorous position.
No one comes to your home and says “Wow, look at that caulking—that is AWESOME!” Caulking keeps us warm and dry, fills in the gaps, so to speak—but it’s not a career that people are standing in line for.
I had known for some time that I was the one that allowed that. Heck, I didn’t just allow it, if nothing presented itself, I went around looking for things to “caulk”. Let me fix your life for you. I had plans and ideas for every one’s life but mine. Problem solving?? I had solutions out the wazoo– I could tell you the books to read, the way to sort through it and how to organize it all to make it work.
I could focus on your problem for hours, days, just as long as I didn’t have to deal with mine.
And then one night it hit me like a ton of bricks, or should I say like a loaded caulking gun.
There was one person in my life that I always managed to say no to. No matter what the opportunity looked like, no matter how great it sounded, I could always talk this person out of it. I was always able to convince them that:
- the timing was off
- they needed to prepare more
- maybe later, life was just too busy at the moment
- they shouldn’t be spending their money on that just now
- they simply didn’t have what it took to make it work
—I could throw out enough stuff to have stumped the best lawyers on any court case going. I had done it to this person for so long, for so many years , that anymore they scarcely even bothered to put up an argument.
And guess who that person was??
The one and the same that was so good at saying yes to everyone around them!
The Grand Caulker herself…me!
I thought I needed to learn how to say no–at least that was what I was hearing bandied about in the conversations of others who felt too available in their lives. It was all about no—nobody was talking about the “Yes” factor.
That maybe…… the secret to bringing things into proper alignment in your life was to begin saying yes.
Just that one tiny word.
Yes to your life.
Yes to your inspirations.
Yes to the ideas, to the dreams, to the goals.
Yes in this moment.
Yes to You.
Saying yes to yourself starts the journey of balancing things out in your life.
Yes has real magic in it.
I finally came to realize that it wasn’t about saying no.
It’s about saying yes to yourself, yes to your dreams.
The no’s will take care of themselves.
Homework for this week? Once a day, say yes to one of the things that calls to your heart, that makes you excited at the mere thought of it and yeah….maybe even scares you a little bit (or a whole lot!)—whatever it is, just say YES.
I rarely let the word No escape
From my mouth
Because it is so plain to my soul
That God has shouted, Yes! Yes! Yes!
To every luminous movement in Existence
~from the poet Hafiz
Yes is the breath of Creation
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