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“Love in All the Right Spaces”
9 x 12in oil on museum quality panel/ SOLD

 

 

Stillness and Creativity:
You Need the One to Get to the Other

 

“Creativity flourishes in solitude.
With quiet, you can hear your thoughts, you can reach deep within yourself, you can focus.”
~Leo Babauta

It is only in the moments we attempt to still the mind that one becomes aware of the frantic pace with which it is moving. Repetitive thinking, worries, and to do lists expanding. Taking up every square inch of real estate in the head, 24/7, 365 days of the year.
 
It actually becomes quite the arduous task to “drop” the busy and enter into stillness. Bringing the mind to a place of stillness seems to verge on the impossible and yet we know…


Stillness and creativity are partners in our creative process.
The one definitely leading to the other.

Problem is, there’s this crazy little thing called time…
and we tell ourselves that with all the stuff we HAVE to do, there simply isn’t time.

No time to do that “get quiet” and “be still” stuff. Which of course is perhaps THE biggest lie we tell ourselves in the course of our art lives. And you KNOW we tell ourselves many. Those lies of no talent, too old, too young, no education, wrong education, too rich, too poor, no support, too much pressure to perform.
 
We say it loud and long. Long enough until the habit of living life devoid of time spent in stillness seems normal, in a really not fun way.
 
We live in this place of busy mind, no stillness, and our North star starts to dim. Everything seems demanding and important. The more lost we become, the louder the drum of beat of no time, no time, can seem!

Hear me now—the “not enough time part” is a lie!

Here’s what really takes precious time that you don’t have:

  • stressing to meet deadlines only to realize later, it didn’t really matter
  • delaying making choices because of indecision, not knowing
  • running in circles
  • wondering about your self-worth
  • feeling creatively blocked

Making/taking time for stillness, even 10 minutes a day, tends to:

  • clear the thinking mind
  • set our priorities in order
  • open doors of creativity and peace

In stillness, we find ourselves beginning to listen.
And as Eckart Tolle so eloquently put it, stillness speaks.

It speaks of truth. It speaks of things the chaotic mind has no awareness of. Out of that stillness comes your clarity, your knowing, and your inspiration.

Clarity which beams the light of wisdom onto what our life is about.
The knowing of which road to take, what truly needs us and what truly will never matter.
And ahh…that breath of inspiration! For those of us so desirous of plunging into deep waters of creation, it becomes  a surety that this is our calling.  The words to write, the thing to paint, the song to sing.
 

Stillness and your creativity are fellow sojourners. Introduce them to each other once again and take delight in what appears!

“Let stillness direct your words and actions.” ~ Eckart Tolle

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  • Gloria - June 27, 2017 - 11:27 am

    Stillness is crucial to me. This is the first summer I refuse to have something on my calendar each day. I have learned to say “no” to many requests that sabotage any possibility of silence. That is no longer acceptable. For the first time I feel alive.ReplyCancel

  • Cindy Stierhoff - June 27, 2017 - 9:52 am

    Your words hit home to me this morning, Dreama…thanx for the precise, clear thoughts on how important stillness is…I loose track of it more than I care to admit. Your a blessing in our lives, for sure.ReplyCancel

  • Wendy Trommer - June 27, 2017 - 8:01 am

    This really spoke to me. Many years ago I made one of a kind art dolls and fiber chess sets. Unfortunately, circumstances made getting a job necessary. Shortly after getting back into the corporate world, my ability to focus on creating the dolls and chess sets went out the window. I could quilt, knit and do any number of other “creative” endeavors, but the truly creative part of me disappeared under the weight of “no time”. Perhaps it’s now time to take the time to be still, slow down and breathe. Thank you for the timely reminder.ReplyCancel

  • Peggy - June 27, 2017 - 7:47 am

    I put my painting on hold for 2 years because of other things. I have just begun the journey back. This is what I needed to hear. Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Klock - June 27, 2017 - 6:49 am

    In God’s perfect timing , this is exactly what I needed to read this morning . Thank you so much for sharing .ReplyCancel

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“A Room with a View”
12 x 12inoil on museum quality panel
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Status quo anyone?
I confess, I have lots of questions. I even surprise myself sometimes by my questioning of the status quo. There lies within a higher self that challenges me (the me who wants to belong and fit in).


You know that higher voice—the “mother hen” in your head that asks you if everyone is diving off the cliff does that mean you’re going to do it too?!?

Not wishing to stand out (being different can be both wonderful and horrifying at the same time!) one tries to do the status quo thing.  And yet there lies within a true North that pulls so strong it will not allow for doing what has been done before!  To take the safer, known route.

Creative folks get this.  And let’s face it—we are all, to a person, creative.  
This higher self is what creates the unrest. It’s like having an internal compass that won’t allow for getting too comfortable.

On some level we know dissatisfaction is a beautiful thing. We stretch and reach, toss and turn. In our search from this unnameable thing within that simply will not let us rest, not let us call it a day and go home.
 

I’m guessing a good portion of this stems from our awareness. An innate knowledge of the incredulous gift arriving on the breath of each new day. That awareness carries within it responsibility. If we have this gift, how can we become complacent, settle for this will do, a folding of the hands and withdrawal from doing?

And by this ‘gift’, I’m not only referring to your creative gifts, but the the larger gift from which it arises.  Your very life.  The knowing that the days matter, even when they don’t appear to.

That chance encounters, words penned, inspirations dropping down are all significant.
Even when we can’t see it from where we are standing.
It’s a tremendous gift this life we have.
What will we do with it?
Sort of pulls the plug on status quo 😉
 
Yeah, I knew you would get this.
 
If you are here, if you’re eyes are falling upon these words, incline your ear to the whispers in your heart. Uncomfortable? Dissatisfied? Sure signs your inner fires are burning bright.  Your path is opening upward to something beautiful and amazing…just like you!  

 

Realize that the dissatisfaction is there for a great reason.
Without it nothing magical would ever be accomplished.

 

P.S.  I once knew a lady who was closing her art gallery because she had become dissatisfied with the retail side of it. She was wanting to spend more time traveling to places like Europe.  The gallery was one she had owned for 6 years and I had stopped by to see about getting my work shown there.  She apologized but said she was ready to move on and do something else.

P.S.S.  I should let you know she was 94.  Georgianna had opened the gallery at the young age of 86 🙂  Pretty sure she wasn’t into status quo thinking.

 

Note:  We’ve been having fun reading all the great responses to our ‘getting to know you’ campaign–if you missed it, you have until June 25 to get in on the fun (and get your name in the hat for the $200 Gift Certificate for Blick Art Supplies..I know you need more art stuff!)

I’d love to know more about you—your tastes, loves, your interests!  

The Dream Team has put together an organized way of doing just that…

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(and it involves getting your name in the hat for a $200 Blick Art Supplies Gift Certificate Giveaway!)

I’d love to know what you think!
Click Here to let me know.

Thank you so much!

 

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  • Karen Meredith - June 21, 2017 - 5:43 pm

    I’m reading “Dark Nights of the Soul: A Guide to Finding Your Way Through Life’s Ordeals” by Thomas Moore and wanted to share this quote with you.

    “Start with some ordinary creative work and then discover what it feels like to be a creative person. The idea is not to make you a star, but to give your work the shine and sparkle that are the signs of divinity.”ReplyCancel

  • Virginia - June 21, 2017 - 12:51 pm

    I’ve thought and thought about learning to paint but that’s as far as I’ve ever gotten. And then Dreama tells the story of Georgianna who at 86 opened her art gallery and now at the ripe old age of 94 wants to sell it and move on and do other things. This is so inspiring to me because at age 66 and a run of bad health, I was beginning to think I was too old to venture into anything new at my age. Well, guess what???? I’m rethinking that mindset beginning today. If Georgianna can do it at 86 and again at 94, why not me at 66? Thank you for this great message of inspiration.ReplyCancel

  • Judith madsen - June 20, 2017 - 11:08 pm

    I love reading your spirit words for life Dreama. I have been feeling very very flat. So reading others responses has helped me know I’m not alone in “is this all there is?”
    Isn’t that gallery owner inspirational. Thank you for sharing. With joy. Cheers.ReplyCancel

  • Beth Nelson - June 20, 2017 - 6:59 pm

    Dreama, I have newly learned of you and the beautiful art you share. I absolutely love your style. The words you pen are wonderfully inspiring, thank you.
    With this writing I am not only inspired, but relish in the joy of hearing someone say dissatisfaction has a plus side. I’ve been questioned many times about not being satisfied. It seems folks relate it to unhappiness; not so at various parts of life in my opinion. Thank you for sharing your insights.ReplyCancel

    • Donna Foste - June 21, 2017 - 7:32 pm

      Wow, Beth! I totally relate to what you said here. I have a very melancholic temperament and that is often mistaken for unhappiness. It’s not a BAD thing to hope for, or strive for something more or better, is it? I expect a lot out of the world and a lot out of myself, so that means plenty of restless periods.ReplyCancel

  • Robin - June 20, 2017 - 11:05 am

    Gosh, these words really moved me today. I smiled as I read them. Your words affirm that I am not alone on my journey and how we are more alike than we are different. Love the story of the 95 year old gal and her gallery adventure… Giving me hope and certainty that more magic awaits, and it’s not about age. Love reading your offerings. Mahalo, Dreama, you made my day.ReplyCancel

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“Strawberry Heaven”
6 x 6in oil on museum quality board
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It has nothing to do with me.
Remember this phrase when the temptation to measure your life, your work, your creativity against someone else’s shows up.
And it will.
No matter what someone else has accomplished, it really has nothing to do with me or you.
Our work is to show up and do our work. Period.
 
We live in the times of everything being measurable. Quantifiable. Surrounded by so much measuring, it’s way too easy to awaken to a feeling of worthlessness.
 
We measure. We calculate our own work and worth, in the attempt to see how it compares. We apply those calculations as a way of measuring our value. It is a way, I suppose, of validating our existence. Confirming that we are here, and not just existing but doing better, perhaps, than the next fella.
 
Intuitively we know that this is not what the plants and animals are doing. I scarcely think a bird is discussing his neighbor’s nest. Wondering how many hours were put into the building of it. I doubt he angsts over whether his net (yes net, not nest 😉 ) worth is greater. Or if he’d be more highly esteemed amongst his peers if only he had a nicer, newer, bigger nest or perhaps if it were painted better.
 
Same goes for flower conversations. Or rocks. Or trees. Dogs, cats, deer, and bumble bee. This is not how they spend their day.

We look everywhere outside us.
Attempting to set a value on our priceless self,
we forego the interior sweep
which is where the wealth resides
.


In our spirit, in our thoughts, in our hearts.
In our love and compassion.
In those moments when our breath is taken away by sudden beauty and hearts made glad by the laughter of a child.
 
Rich, rich, rich. Wise, wise, wise. Not book smart. Not an education made by man.
 
But a wealth of divine intelligence placed in us by the ONE that designed us. Each one of us a treasure that can’t be priced. Simply by virtue of our existence, we each matter and are as valued, equally, by the love that made us.
 

As flowers, bees, birds, cats, trees, rocks, wind and mountains don’t have to prove or assess their value, for they are indeed priceless, neither should we.

We are whole, beautiful, invaluable—as we are. Our love is what binds us as one whole. Just as unimaginable as the earth would be absent of trees and water—so would we be without love.

 

If we have a price, a value, it is that of love.
The great, one mysterious thing that moves, knits and holds everything in its rightful place.
What a gift to need to be nothing more than we already are.
 

Love has made us thus and thus we shall walk.
Perfect, priceless…made with love.

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P.S. I’d love to know more about you—your tastes, loves, your interests!

The Dream Team has put together an organized way of doing just that…

***

(and it involves getting your name in the hat for a $200 Blick Art Supplies Gift Certificate Giveaway!)

I’d love to know what you think!
Click Here to let me know.

Thank you so much!

 

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“Timeless Moments of Provence”
12 x 9in oil on museum quality panel
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SO WHEN IS A PAINTING FINISHED…according to Dreama? 

If perfection in a painting is not the gold standard for deciding if it is finished, then what is?

For me it is…

Abandoning the idea of perfection in my work, a relaxing of my “standards”.    This one single thing was and still is both life changing and life affirming for me.  It’s me accepting me.  With every painting there comes a  letting go of my need for perfection.  Each letting go brings me a little closer to my one true self.

Happily looking for signs on when my painting is finished I ask myself questions like these:

Does it contain within it that joy I felt while doing it?
Can I view it and feel a tenderness and kindness towards myself?
Does it make me smile?
Do I see “me” in it?

It has helped me to realize that my art is not about “wowing” someone else with my skills.
It is about bringing some smiles, some truth, some happy to this life while I am here.

I won’t always be. Here.  So while I am I want to really BE here.  In all my imperfect ways, painting life as I find it. Sharing it (and thus a piece of myself in the process) and not getting stuck on the perfection thing.

If it’s not perfect then it is for sure…me 🙂 I am imperfect in every other area of my life. Why would I think I’m going to pull a rabbit out of the hat on this painting thing?  Chuckles here.  The beauty of it all is that we are perfect.  Perfectly imperfect.
And so goes our painting.

Each time I create I get to choose.  A form of contrived perfection OR seeing imperfect me in my work.
I choose the imperfections.
In exchange the paintings seem to breathe on their own.   They have a sense of liveliness.  I tend to nod at them in my studio and smile at their quirky personalities.  Just like my unruly hair, they are fine just as they are.

And so are you… and your creative work.

So my 2 cents worth on how to decide when a painting is finished?

Set your own guidelines for when a painting feels good to you.  Not perfect, but good and imperfectly you.
Paint from your heart, paint with joy, let go of perfection, embrace the beauty of truth in yourself and your art.

When…

It delivers the emotion you felt. It makes you smile. It feels joy.
It is finished.
Period.

It’s not about perfecting a painting.  It’s about allowing your heart to maintain the joy from one painting to the next.  Not pressing it all out to gain some crazy idea of perfect.  All of life is abundant with joys, carrying from one moment to the next…let your paintings simply pause and breathe in that joy from one to the next.  You have done your work and it is good.  Rejoice in that!

I’d love to hear some of your own feel good guidelines for when you feel your painting is finished and come to a happy ending! Leave a comment below…you may just inspire a fellow creative 🙂

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  • Cheryl Herbert - June 7, 2017 - 7:15 pm

    I always feel its time to stop, when my itchy paint brush holding hand wants to do more… STOP my mind screams. Step away from that painting, Miss!!! Breath a deep sigh, and walk away…ReplyCancel

  • Laine Discepoli - June 6, 2017 - 11:43 am

    I find this whole topic interesting because I actually am often afraid I stop too soon! I worry I’m too impatient as I enjoy painting and finishing in one sitting – so I’m often finished in a matter of hours. So for me.. I worry that I’m NOT finished even though I;ve put my brushes down and cleaned up… that I’m not a dedicated enough artist or judge my work with a critical enough eye.
    Either way – I agree that we should just paint for the pure joy of it…to capture whatever essence we desire and then to be satisfied as long as we’d enjoyed the process. I think of painting a canvas like going to a movie… not a huge investment, often a wonderful, sometimes emotion-filled experience and sometimes a dud. I previously did decorative painting for a living which meant I was always working on wall finishes, murals, cabinetry, etc and there was always a deadline, and expectation, etc associated with a paycheck. Painting a canvas for me is truly a pleasure…and I try t stay focused on the journey – NOT just the destination! Seems like a Dreama thing to say, yes?ReplyCancel

  • Rachel Holland - June 6, 2017 - 10:21 am

    Such truth resonating with me in these statements. Everyone has their own way of creating and using tools. We all create our own truth in our paintings. We do hope it resonates with others, bringing something to life for them. Inspirational! Love your heart, Dreama!ReplyCancel

  • Carole Carroll - June 6, 2017 - 9:03 am

    Thank you for modeling joy in painting! I love your perspective! Your color palette celebrates the joy you feel.ReplyCancel

  • Betsy Duncan - June 6, 2017 - 7:41 am

    Thank you, Dreama, for your personal insight and thoughts on this ever present delimma! It is inspiring!ReplyCancel