Before the Creative Process
‘This is hard.’
I’ve applied the above words to many things in my life.
To writing a letter or blog post.
To figuring out internet/computer stuff.
To planning a trip.
To having a difficult conversation.
To holding my ground.
I’m currently in the process of rethinking things.
Defining what hard is and how I’m going to use/not use it.
And here’s the reason why…
The definition of hard came up via a conversation with my daughter Desiree, who’s part of the Dream Team.
We’ve both been following a social media account about a little girl named Eva.
Eva is eight years old and suffered a traumatic brain injury from a fall just a few weeks ago.
Her family has chronicled the experience.
Their posts have been honest, painful, and fierce—words that cause you to weep. I’ve cried a few times just reading them and sent up my own prayers and thoughts for her healing.
Their story IS the definition of hard.
I look at their story, and it serves as a real wake-up call to think about what is hard and what is not.
For the real truth is this. Most often, the day to day stuff we call hard is made up of things we are actively choosing. We didn’t necessarily want it to be a challenge, but we did choose what the work would be for the most part.
We chose to figure out how to paint a subject that was new to us.
We chose to be in business, to work on our computer, and maybe even to have the whole family over for Thanksgiving.
You name it, and more than likely, it’s something we chose to do.
I’ve come to the conclusion that instead of using the ‘hard’ word, it’s more truthful (and feels better) to frame life positively.
‘I get to figure out this computer stuff.’
’I have the opportunity to try a new subject and palette of colors.’
‘And having the whole fam over for the holidays?
Wow! What a fantastic gift of life.’
All items that have nothing to do with ‘hard.’
If you, like me, have caught yourself using the ‘H’ word on things, I invite you to take a closer look and see how it feels to reframe it using words like ‘I get to’ and ‘How wonderful’ and ‘It’s effortless.’
Because as often happens in life, it’s all a matter of relativity.
Things can seem difficult until we remember the times in our lives when we were faced with something that was genuinely HARD.
And when we compare the two, we can feel our shoulders relax as to how non-hard this regular stuff actually is.
We can feel our heart-opening, and we realize we really do have this.
It is easy.
We are surrounded by opportunity.
Our work is our choice.
So I’m actively working at changing up the words I use to surround my choices, and you’re welcome to join me.
It’s not hard.
And that’s a promise.